Many couples are shocked to discover that wedding planning negotiations involve a great deal of unfinished business with themselves as well as with their families. Views polarize and struggles turn into “me vs. you,” instead of the “we and us” that inspired you to become engaged. This is exacerbated if you come from diverse backgrounds. Our coaching together will enable you to stay connected as a couple throughout the wedding planning process, and beyond.
Ensure your wedding is about the union!
We’ve heard couples say that they feel their weddings are “run away trains”, leaving their desires behind and having their families dictate what they can and cannot have. Our work together will involve compatibility testing where we examine each person’s natural communication style and manner of approaching the world. This insight helps us to increase an understanding of not only one another, but also of your own needs as individuals. We will achieve greater clarity and help to navigate the obstacles for a successful wedding as a united team.
Wedding planning stress – counseling in Boston
Couples need to stay unified against the forces and keep the “us” in focus at all times. If one or the other is afraid of conflict and cannot negotiate to protect their spouse to be, negotiations will be very tiring. Couples should be clear of their vision and should target potential areas of conflict beforehand. The icing on the cake is to know how far each is willing to compromise, and to be clear on areas where compromise is a dirty word for your mate. Areas of conflict are often not explored deeply enough before a wedding. Issues relating to child rearing, religion, finances, sexuality, different stylistic demands for space (introvert/extrovert domains) and many others arise. We often ask when the problem began, and many say it had been there all along. The more we can target these areas before a union, the better chances are for decreasing unrealistic expectations that lead to unproductive conflictual cycles.
This coaching package will enable you to:
- Stay connected as a couple throughout the wedding planning process
- Clarify problem areas
- Help each of you to clearly articulate and voice your fears and desires
- Increase awareness of the ways your embarrassment, fear of worry, or angering impacts your ability to be honest and express yourself
- Define “ deal breaker” areas that you refuse to compromise on, which can be more difficult than expected and very helpful in reducing future struggles
- Assert yourself with your partner as well as to your family of origin
- Strengthen your communication and have a more cohesive vision of your special day
Let Us Help You!
Tell us a little about yourself, and we will get back to you with some options for working together. No obligations or commitments, we would just like to get to know your situation first!
